You have three choices relating to birthing your baby during a miscarriage. These choices are in no particular order. You must also have a plan for your baby. A few of your options are listed below.
1. Natural Miscarriage (Waiting it out) – Many women choose this option; however, there is no set time on when this will occur and no guarantee that it will occur on it’s own. Depending upon how far along you are, you may need to utilize pain medications. It is a false belief that a miscarriage is “like a heavy period.” Most women report their miscarriage was similar to labor in that contractions come and go but are less intense then labor. Many report lots of bleeding and the passing of clots and tissue. Please work with your care provider when choosing this option. Women can be at risk of complications or infection if the miscarriage fails to start and/or complete.
2. Medications to induce – Cytotec (Misoprostal) is the medication used to “induce” a miscarriage. The benefit of utilizing medications is this process can be timed. The miscarriage should begin soon after the first dose although that is not always the case. It is also recommended that you receive pain medications when choosing this option as it can be quite painful. You must also work closely with your care provider when choosing this option as there is a risk of hemorrhaging (excessive bleeding) as well as failure of a complete miscarriage leading to a D&C.
3. D&C – Please click on D&C for important information on a Dilation and Curettage. A similar procedure called a D&E (Dilation and Evacuation) carries the same risks. This procedure carries many risks such as developing Asherman’s Syndrome, hemorrhaging, hysterectomy, and secondary infertility. Preserving your future fertility is important. A D&C/D&E should not be taken lightly. It is also important to note that you will not receive your baby “intact” should you choose this procedure. Please consult with your care provider for more information.
Other options you have are:
- Communal Burial
- Genetic Testing for Baby
- Cremation (depends on gestational age)
- Naming your Baby
- Memorial Service
- Death Announcements